To create this article, people, some anonymous, worked to edit and improve it over time. This article has been viewed 4,, times. Learn more If you've been with your girlfriend for a long time -- or not so long -- and are ready to take your relationship to a more intimate level, you must be wondering if she's feeling the same way.
My Girlfriend Has Incredibly Strict Rules for How We Have Sex
My girlfriend only likes sex a certain way. Can I get her to open up?
You have asked a question to which there is no satisfactory answer — unless you decide to prioritise all other aspects of your relationship over sexuality. Trying so hard to reconcile the irreconcilable is making you very sad - and no wonder; such a gulf between thoughts and feelings commonly pitches a person into depression. This problem is not going to get better by itself, so it must be addressed urgently and directly. You need to have a very focused conversation with your girlfriend, in which you must share your true feelings without apportioning blame. Help her to see how unhappy this situation is making you, and ask her to describe her own feelings, while listening empathically. It is also essential to ask her to try to help you understand the reason for her disinterest in sex.
I barely have the desire to have sex with my girlfriend – but desperately wish I did
Subscriber Account active since. I'm 20 years old, and I have a girlfriend who's a virgin. When we make out, I try to do my best not to put pressure on her to give me oral sex or have penetrative sex, but we've been together for two years, and nothing sexual has happened yet. I love every single cell in her body, and I don't want to bring up sex if it could hurt her or make her feel uncomfortable, but it's something I'm personally ready for in our relationship. To make matters worse, my friends know we haven't had sex and keep calling me me a "noob" and say I should be a sex expert.
She knows how to get herself off. Because if she already knows what she likes, it's that much easier for you to know what she likes, so you don't feel like you're playing "guess how to make me come" at a sex carnival. Also, if she doesn't know how to get herself off, you need to help her immediately because that's not OK. She feels comfortable telling you what she does and doesn't want. A lot of this could be attributed to how comfortable she feels sharing things with you because she knows you won't judge her or make her feel bad for anything, but it also means she's someone who is able to speak her mind and verbalize her needs, so she's basically a badass superhero chick because that shit is hard.